Church weddings are the traditional way to be married. Today, you need not have religious beliefs to be married in a church, although generally, at least one partner follows the beliefs of the church. However, many people choose church weddings because of the beautiful venue, the exchange of vows and the personal feel of a church setting.
Things to consider
The first step to finding your church is to get in touch with your vicar. If however you don’t regularly attend a particular church, you need to choose one where you’d wish to get married.
Consider the cost: are there any fees to use the church, the organist or the choir? Especially if you are not a regular member of congregation.
Is there any special dress standards? Can you personalise the venue and ceremony, and if so, to what extent? Is the Church and church leader available prior to your wedding date to have a rehearsal ceremony?
Finally, maybe you’ve already decided on your evening venue, and so need to find a church nearby. If the church happens to be a fair distance away, consider providing transport for your guests.
A church wedding can add a spiritual dimension to your marriage. The ceremony includes God, who will help and guide you throughout the day. For many church weddings, God’s blessing is the main attraction, whatever their beliefs. The vicar will also help add a special touch to your day: they can help make your wedding personal, meaningful and absolutely memorable.
Once you’ve agreed on a church, make sure to enclose all the necessary information in your wedding invitations (hochzeitskarten in German) (no confetti allowed on church grounds, directions & where to park etc).
Church buildings offer a beautiful setting. Old or new, they offer some of the most stunning venues, and set in beautiful landscapes, it can truly make for a breathtaking venue. They also offer history. You could get married in the same church as your parents or grandparents.
You can also help decide about your ceremony; the order of events, your hymn preference. Some churches will even allow you to decorate the venue to your taste!
Your marriage will need comply with not only UK civil law but also church law, so there are certain aspects which must be seen carried out.
Reading of banns: this is an announcement in the church of your intention to marry and gives a chance for anyone to put forward a reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place.
Legal age: if you are under 18, you will need your parents’ consent to marry. By UK law, you cannot get married until you are 16.
Timing: Your wedding must take place between 8am and 6pm on any day for it to be legal.